BFFs

Do you have a best friend? The one you always go to to divulge juicy information, ask deep questions, get advice, vent to, and sit in a room together and not even say anything and it doesn’t matter? In my last post, I mentioned that I think we are given just the right friends at just the right time in our lives when we need them.  Some friends are easy to make, some are more difficult. But it seems that everyone plays a specific role for a specific reason. 

However, the BFF is special. They stick around for longer and know you better. They might be new to you, but they’ll stay. I have a couple of these, and I love them all for different reasons and in different ways. None are better than others. It’s an amazing feeling to have so many good friends like this. 

But. BUT. How do you get to make connections like this? I had this crazy fear strike me suddenly the other day.  What if my daughter never has a best friend??

She is very lovable. She is kind. She is friendly. But she can be painfully shy.  She is kinda kooky, kinda bratty, kinda amazing.  I’m sure there are others out there like her, but I see her get left out often and it breaks my heart. Reruns of elementary and middle school flash in my mind.  It makes me so sad. 

Is it possible that she might not have a best friend? That she might not get to experience this amazing feeling of unconditional friendship? For me, friends are my family. They play that important of a role in my life. I would honestly do anything for my friends.  They love me through my good and bad times, and I, them.  I try REALLY hard to be a good friend all the time and no matter what. I try to be understanding and put myself in their place when they make decisions that I wouldn’t or say things that I can’t imagine saying aloud. I try my best to always be supportive.  I love my friends and my best friends. I just really hope that my daughter gets to be and have a best friend that strives for the same attributes, despite my fears. 

Where’s That Pretty Glow? Inside the heart of your friendships, of course. 

Advertisements

Matthew McConaughey

This guy is an American actor according to Wikipedia.  Hahaha! Yeah, no kidding. He’s also my mom’s boyfriend. Or is that Johnny Depp? She has lots of boyfriends.

One other thing I find fascinating about him is his impeccable talent to make speeches. Maybe he has smart speech writers. Maybe he’s just actually smart.  Turns out, homeboy went to college at University of Texas at Austin. So there’s that.

Point is, tonight I watched a speech that he made. It culminated in, “Prioritize your life. I prioritize my life into five areas- fatherhood,  marriage,  health, career, friendship.” And it resonated with me. I think I’ve actually watched that speech before, but tonight it made sense.

Motherhood is and will always be my number one.  Even when I’m trying to be alone…or leave the state…it is my numero uno. I constantly have fears and worries about my children and how I can mold them into the best sorts of people. I love them fiercely.

Marriage is hard. Remember that from earlier? This has become more apparent to me just in the last 3 months. But as a wise woman once said,  “you build from adversity”. You have to. It makes you a stronger person and your significant other a stronger person.  The only way to get through adversity with other people is outright communication.  Don’t skip around your concerns.  Just say it.

Health. Oh health.  We have a love/hate relationship.  I wish it was more love.  I can right now think of at least 10 people, who are very close to me, who are going through worse health situations than I am or did.  We are talking cancer, degenerative diseases, immobility, autoimmune diseases,  you name it.  I had a herniated disc that is recovering very nicely.  Did it hurt? Hell yes.  Worse pain than labor or c- section, or any other pain I’ve ever felt? Yep.  Does it even hold a candle to what these people I know are experiencing?  NOPE. But it was a stark reminder to me that I need to shape up, or I’ll be shipping out.

Career is another big one for me.  I love, love, love my career as a Speech Language Pathologist. Seriously, I do. There’s not a day where I hate going to work. It is my niche. Lately, however, it had completely taken over everything. I’ve had to do a complete overhaul.  It is good though. Good things and NEW things to come!

Friendships are my lifeline. They keep me laughing, sane, open-minded, kind, caring, adventurous, and accepting. My friends are amazing. I believe you find the perfect friends for you right when you need them. I try to keep the best ones around to fill up my bucket.

That Pretty Glow portion of this continues to be the good you can find in the ordinary parts of life. The parts that are all around and make my world go round (Well that, and fat bottomed girls. Anyone? Queen?).